Goodbye to Two Sisters, One Known and One Unknown

I recently lost two “sisters”.  Not biological siblings.  One of them was a friend of 20 years.  The other, I hardly knew.  I mourn their loss equally.


Julia was a fellow KAD (see  After a long battle with leukemia, this young, wonderful woman passed away on 5/31/08.  She left behind people who really knew her and people who only knew her through the KAD group and her blog.  She is mourned by all.  Her story of her struggle with adoption is one that most adoptees know all too well.  She handled it all with grace, compassion, and love.


My other “sister” was a dear friend.  We’ve been through a lot together.  We’ve laughed, fought, and shared each other’s secrets.  Even when we came at issues from opposite sides, we remained sisters.  I cannot call her sister any longer.  She has become an anti-semite and a racist.  Her words are rabid and destructive.  Fear consumes her.  I wonder if she would have hated Julia too, simply because she was a Jew?


How twisted life is.  One woman died, loving.  The other lives, hating.  








~ by eunmi38 on June 2, 2008.

4 Responses to “Goodbye to Two Sisters, One Known and One Unknown”

  1. […] Goodbye to two sisters by Eun Mi (Living, Laughing, Whining… as a Korean adoptee) […]

  2. Oh, Eun Mi. No words, just a lot of sadness.

  3. So sorry for both of your losses. (((((HUGS))))) samdi~found ya by clicking “Next”

  4. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss.

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